The Art of Remaining Unbothered

In a digital landscape dominated by adversity, debate, controversy, fiery opinion and attacks from all sides of every spectrum imaginable, the art of remaining unbothered faces a duality of being crucially important yet exceedingly difficult to achieve.

Relaxio exists to make this process easier.

Being unbothered is, on face value, an easy and simplistic state of mind, a reduction in reactionary responses and a detachment from the drama, but the reality is significantly more difficult to exercise in practice, and shifting societal and digital factors make it tough to navigate. But if mastered, remaining unbothered - to the core, not just a surface level cognitive shift - will better evolve your life, shift your outlook on interpersonal interactions, and assist you in achieving a digital ascension so powerful nothing can harm you.

Remaining unbothered begins internally - a shift in your cognition to allow a buffer, a pause in time, to process and to rationalize. In the face of adversity, it is taking a step back, internally, to assess the situation and to determine the appropriate response while maintaining the core foundation of Relaxio. In an argument or confrontation, it is being quiet, not permanently, but with enough space to both allow the opponent more room for error while allowing you mental space and bandwidth to space out from the situation and assess its worth.

Oftentimes, interactions of this nature categorically are not worth it. Cliche, yes, but true.

Worth is your time and mental space, and both time and your mental space are invaluable. Time is something you will never regain, it is lost or stolen from you, so it is your duty to retain it, and mental space impacts everything you do from that point on.

Time is everything you will never get back, and mental space is everything you will become.

Putting the ball in someone else's court, which is what pausing during conflict feels like, is anxiety inducing and feels like failure, but it's crucial in realizing a 17th century proverbial saying:

Give a man enough rope and he will hang himself.

Digitally, this is more apparent than ever as people fight to fill voids of silence with filler that does more harm than good. An irreversible digital record that will, through binary bits, follow you for life. Your children will stumble upon them with whatever VR/AR Neuralink eye-implant digital thingamajig they use in the year 2050, and their children, through holographic simulations while they sleep, will stumble upon them.

You will be a generational embarrassment.

Instead, we turn to another proverb, this time Proverbs 17:28:

Even a fool, when he holdeth his peace, is counted wise: and he that shutteth his lips is esteemed a man of understanding.

The most foolish, clumsy person can be considered wise if they maintain silence, and that silence better serves them than filler content that ails them.

Relaxio wholeheartedly adopts this principal in dealing with the mundane and the inflammatory - points of fud, inflection, disaster, are entirely mitigated by remaining unbothered, in our own lane, and independently flourishing. We don't fall for bait, for which the entire digital landscape is littered with, and we don't engage with bait.

As Relaxio grows and our principals expand, people will test the resolve of Relaxio, and they will test the individual resolve of Relaxio supporters. They will bait responses, tear apart mentalities, and incite anguish at the different; Relaxio remains unbothered.

Relaxio remains unbothered.

When bait raises its head above the precipice of digital timelines, we do not engage like-for-like. We respond with love and warmth, and non-aggressive invitations to digital ascension. When anger rises like a bull in a China shop, we do not enrage it. We respond with space and time, and de-escalation to a neutral plain.

“Here let death’s poetry arise to life, / O Muses sacrosanct whose liege I am! / And let Calliope rise up and play / her sweet accompaniment in the same strain / that pierced the wretched magpies with the truth / of unforgivable presumptuousness.”

Dante's opening prayer as he entered Purgatory in preparation for his climb of the seven-story mountain of love in Divine Comedy chronicles him wandering, through 100 cantons of the poem, a dark wilderness. He must travel to hell and back, alongside Virgil - the great Roman poet of love.

Dante and Virgil grow more and more connected as they descend the circles of the abyss, and to continue their journey they must embody the love that is lacking from each and every circle of hell. It was in this hell, and his travels through it, that Dante learned love. That love requires relationships, trust (as exemplified repeatedly through the cantons of Divine Comedy), and that love requires forgiveness.

Ultimately, love conquered death and allowed the pair to slip down the body of the beast and reach the base of Mount Purgatory, the Mountain of Love connecting the human, physical world with the celestial realm of complete and total love.

Digital ascension.

Ascended Love is a core principle of a Relaxio mindset, and is crucial for attaining a level of peace so complete and encompassing that digital ascension becomes possible.

At its root, this is achieved by remaining unbothered.

Relaxio.